Mediation is for reasonable people who wish to resolve their disputes and cannot do it without some help. In my experience, most people fall in to the reasonable people category, although it may not look that way to their spouse. During separation and divorce, people who are otherwise sensible and astute, may act unreasonably or illogically. Consider whether feeling chaotic, sad and resentful is causing you or your spouse to act unreasonably. Mediation allows you to offload some of your concerns and complaints so the reasonable discussions and meaningful work may commence.